Nowadays, I face two kind of situations when asking a friend out.
Scenario I
Me: Hey friend, how are you doing? Long time no see. Shall we meet up someday?
A: Oh Hi, I'm fine. *Ignoring the last question*
Me: Are you free this weekend? Or any day that suite your time?
A: Ermmm....Hey I'm sorry, I need to balik kampung with my hubby to see my baby this coming week. Next week, I need to bring my baby to see doctor.....bla bla bla..... Next time la. Oh, I gotta go. Bye..... *leaving in rush*
Me: ..............
Since then, I hardly hear from her again and not even mention about the outing =(
Scenario II
Me: Hi friend, how are you? Long time no see.
B: Hi Susan! Nice to see you online. We should catch up someday.
Me: Oh sure. When and where? This weekend?
B: Great! Bla bla bla....*happily suggesting a place to meet up*
Since then, we have outing very often.
Sorry, no offence by the dialogue above. My key point here is the older I grow, friends that I can go out with are getting lesser and lesser. At my age, most of the friends have got married or attached. Married one, busy with their marriage or family life. Attached one, weekday busy working and weekend busy dating with boy boy or girl girl. So the only friends who usually can accompany me full time are same status with me -- single and available =(
Happy single life anyway =)
Hi Susan, don't feel bad. I was once very troubled with this scenario. I got freaking crazy before and kept dialing or sending stupid smses to friends. Well, you know what I get in the end? No one cares to reply me. I got even more hurt. I fully understand what you've been through. After long thoughts, I realised that these are part of life that we all need to go through.
ReplyDeleteAs we grow up, we go seperate ways & lead own lives. We meet friends along the way but do pick up & cherish those who are worth to be cherished. Friends come & go. The good one will stay & I'm sure there are still the good friends out there around you, though the number may be small. Numbers are not important. As long as it is still keep in touch, and there are still love in friendship, it is all that matters.
Take care Susan & really hope to meet you again!
Thank you so much, Kat! I really appreciate to have you around whenever I'm depressed. You lend me your ears and you encourage me. You are such a nice and sincere friend for me. I appreciate our friendship. Don't worry about me, I'm getting better now with my family and friend like you to support me. I should be blessed that I am not alone to go through this stage.
ReplyDelete朋友就好像乘坐巴士的乘客。你无法预料是谁先上下车，也无法预料上下车的人会是个怎样的人。能够坚持到底的，当然是难人可贵；退后的，也许某种因素而遥远。懂得珍惜和付出，往往会有些冲突。你我了解的，并不代表他人能够明白的。你想的，你做的，并非他人所能认同的。真正能体会的，只有亲身体验过的。
ReplyDelete你并非一人作战，你还有许多疼爱你的人在身旁。虽然，我已为人妻，但是，还是一样过着未婚生活（也许，没有小孩的顾虑吧！）。想出去走走？还可以找我。想借对耳朵？我的双耳天天为你打开。想借个肩膀倚靠，我宽阔的肩膀为你擦亮。
加油！
谢谢你，我亲爱的表姐！看了你留下的comment， 我真的很感动。别担心，我向你保证，我回复了原来的我，忧郁已离我远远了！想通了，心情也开朗了!
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